THE FEBRUA

Going through a breakup can be the most devastating thing that can happen to anyone. Love is something that is inevitable in a person's life; so is the pain that it leaves behind! But trust me, this pain won't last forever! You'll get through everything really soon!   The first thing you have to do after a breakup is accept the fact that the person is not in your life anymore. It has to be the most painful feeling, but it is the truth. If you keep on brushing away the truth, your life will get miserable. Healing doesn't happen overnight. You might feel shattered sometimes during the process; don't hesitate to start over from the beginning. Keep yourself busy and engaged all the time. It's okay to be single for a while, but try to heal yourself completely before you get into another relationship. Try to go with the flow. But never use a person just to forget your past. It's normal to feel lonely after a breakup, so make yourself your best friend and a compani...

Cheating on someone is never an option, whatever the situation might be. No person deserves to be treated in such a way. Cheating can never be taken lightly, not even by someone who is known to be strong and outspoken.   When someone is cheated on, they lose trust not only in the person who cheated on them, but also in all of their other relationships. All of your bitter experiences from your past could have affected you all of a sudden, and you might have gotten into a state of depression like never before. The healing process is often more traumatic, but it should not be neglected at any cost. You should be able to acknowledge what has happened and understand that life is uncertain. Give yourself time and space to heal from everything.    It is not really important to think about whether you should leave or stay in such a relationship. The thing that really matters is what you can do to heal yourself from everything that has happened. It is okay if you are not able to f...

We most often judge others without even realising it. Judging is good to some extent when you are making life choices or investing your time and love in a person. We don't have any right to judge anyone, nor any privilege either.    We should stop judging because we don't even know everything about the person, and, most importantly, we don't know what people have gone through in their lives. We often judge someone based on a particular situation and fail to get to know the whole story. We only choose to judge a person's flaws and fail to know their pain. No one is perfect, and each person is different in some way or another; so are their choices and preferences. People always fail to realise their own mistakes, but they keep looking for faults in others. Before judging someone, try to put yourself in his or her shoes and try to accept them as they are. People can do whatever they want, and it's not really necessary to explain everything to everyone.   A lot of peopl...

If you are asking for a person's attention or begging for someone to love you, read this fully. What happens when you pursue a person to make them fall in love with you?    First things first, it affects your peace of mind. Gradually, you'll lose interest in your career, and your life will become terrible. You'll start forgetting the important people in your life for someone who doesn't even care that you exist. Eventually, you'll end up alone. You are probably wasting your time and energy on something that is never going to happen. You can never attract a person who doesn't value you. When you keep on chasing someone, they might lose respect for you. Don't give anyone the privilege of treating you in such a way. There is no use in pursuing someone who is unsure of you. Talk to the person and get closure so that you don't go back to them again. They might not be the right one for you, and you deserve someone better who is genuinely ready to invest thei...

Have you ever yelled at someone all of a sudden for something trivial and regretted it a few minutes later? I guess most of us do this often. But the thing is, anger issues can have major consequences if left unresolved.     A short temper can have serious effects on yourself and the people around you as well. It is normal to become angry once in a while, but make sure that you don't hurt anybody or bring chaos to any of your relationships with others. Because your blood pressure rises when you become angry, it can have serious consequences for both your mental and physical health. To overcome this issue, you should be able to recognise the symptoms, which might be quite challenging because those angry episodes occur suddenly out of nowhere with little to no warning at all. Try to watch out for situations when you start yelling suddenly. If you try to hold back your anger, your energy might get drained out quickly even before you start to realise it.  Whenever you f...

I have come across a lot of people who constantly say they'll die alone because they don't look good. My question to all of them is, Who defined beauty? Who says that you have to be a certain way to be attractive or impressive?   We weren't born here to attract or impress anyone. And being beautiful is not even about looks anymore. You are at your most beautiful when you are being yourself. Everyone has their own flaws, which are actually gifts that make them unique in some way or another. You have been created this way for a reason, so embrace yourself! The person who feels good about themselves is the one who finds beauty in everything. You should never try to be someone that you are not in order to please people. And you should never change yourself to meet someone else's expectations. Never compare yourself to others. You should be able to fall in love with your body and skin, and think of ways to flaunt yourself. All you need to do is be healthy inside and out in o...

Procrastination is when a person intentionally or habitually delays or puts off doing something that is really important and should be done at any cost. So if you're someone who finds excuses to postpone your assignments or any other work, then this is for you.   Procrastination is basically different from being lazy because you often choose to do something that is less important than the task that you are actually supposed to do. whereas laziness is all about being inactive or unproductive. Procrastination involves ignoring an extremely important task and doing something else that is easier or more entertaining. But when left unchecked, it can have huge consequences.   When you keep on postponing something that is really important for your studies or career, it can lead to less productivity, and you might as well fail to achieve your goals. It can also make you feel guilty and question your capability to do things, which can lead to depression and anxiety. To overcome this is...

Inferiority complexes have been a major issue for a lot of people. Comparing yourself to others, having self-doubt or uncertainty, feeling nervous and frustrated, attempting to be a perfectionist, being sensitive to criticism, seeking attention, being highly competitive, and having difficulty admitting mistakes are all signs of an inferiority complex.   One proven way to get out of this complex is to start loving yourself and to realise that you are good enough. One should be able to turn comparisons into inspiration in order to get rid of negative thoughts. Don't keep seeking validation from others. And stop blaming yourself for every single thing that happens to you. Inferiority complexes are basically due to negative or abusive childhood experiences. So be kind to yourself as much as possible. Focus only on your positive attributes. Realise that no one is better than the other person and that everyone has their own flaws.   You should be ready to eliminate self-criticis...

Have you ever been in a one-sided love? If yes, you would have known how painful and frustrating it is. You would have been yearning for a person's love, and they would have behaved as if you never existed. This can be one of the most painful moments a person can experience in his or her life. But you have to realise that just because a person rejects your love doesn't mean that you are not good enough. And also, it doesn't mean that they are bad just because they don't reciprocate your love. Sometimes, they might have a huge respect for you. So, it is really important that you be able to respect their choices as well.   You have to realise that you can never force someone to love you. And just because they like your Instagram posts and comment on them, doesn't mean that they are into you. You have to stop assuming that they love you based on their gestures. If someone has rejected you, you should never bother that person again. You should be able to handle the r...