Since Valentine's Day has passed recently, a lot of people would have put themselves down to the fact that they are still single. It's okay to have felt this way in this world of extremist ideas. There is an assumption that single people are unworthy and fit for nothing. But the thing is, being single is way better than being in a bad relationship.
You should never jump into a relationship unless you are actually ready for it. And never do it just because all your friends are into relationships and they try to set you up with someone. Don't do it for the sake of killing time either. Casual dating and all is fun only when your partner is also ready for it. Don't be desperate to find a partner to fill the void of your loneliness. Instead, try exploring yourself. Work, earn, and save a little for yourself. Make visits to orphanages and old age homes once in a while, and then you'll get to know that you're just single and not alone. Have a deep conversation with an elderly man, and he'll tell you what you should not miss doing when you are young and stiff. Take your mom to the holiday destination you have always wanted to go to with the love of your life. After all, she is your first love. Help your father with his chores and tell him how much you love him. We most often don't do that. Stop by and say hello to a stranger (we are well experienced on Instagram, so why not in person?! ). While being single, you get to connect with a lot of people. And if someone asks about your relationship status, tell them you are single and happy.
You don't always need a romantically active life to be happy. Every now and then, go to restaurants alone and have your favourite dessert. The good thing is that you don't have to share it with anyone. Go watch a movie alone, and go for those late-night long rides with music on. Solitude isn't really bad. It's pure bliss. Experience it once, and you'll never need anyone just for the sake of a company. When you are single, you can work on your unresolved traumas (if you have any). Some people might have had a traumatic childhood. If so, think of ways to come out of it. Or else, it's going to reflect badly on your relationship later. Become friends with people of the opposite gender and with people of different ages. They help you learn what you should really care about in your life. You have a lot of people around you who really care and want the best for you. Don't take anyone for granted.
Most relationships today start on Instagram and end on WhatsApp. Nowadays, most relationships don't make it to marriage because people are afraid of lifetime commitments. Relationships are not always what they seem to be in romantic movies. They can bring out the best as well as the worst in you. It's like a bed of roses with thorns underneath. I am not generalising that all romantic relationships are bad or worthless. I have come across many exquisite love stories in real life. Love is inevitable. But we often get lost while searching for it. Wait until love in its purest form finds you, then grasp it and start building your own empire of romance. Until then, stay single and have the utmost fun possible.
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